I read a post the other day. I’m not going to link to it, because it was a “Goodbye Cruel World! I’m taking my ball and going home.” blog closure post. So who wrote it, and where it was at, is pretty much moot.
But it’s been bugging me, because the attitude of the post is something I’ve seen before.
And it smacks of bitterness and negativity.
Apparently, she was concerned that she was becoming a mommy-blogger. Which, fair enough, I’m not keen to fill the stereotypical mommy-blogger slot. At the same time, I have kids, I talk about them, ergo I figure I’m at least a quasi-mommy-blogger. I can deal with that.
But then she went on to make some sweeping generalizations, that I’ve heard before. I’d like to stress that it’s not this one person I’m all irritated with, it’s just that I’ve heard all this before, and it riled me up the other night, lol
All Mommy Bloggers Are Just Angling For A Book Deal
I’d have to disagree, obviously, or else I wouldn’t bother writing about it, eh?
Yes, I’m sure a good chunk of bloggers would swoon if offered a book deal. But that’s like watching American Idol and complaining that the contestants are just angling for a record deal.
Blogging is writing. Bloggers are writers. Therefore, I would expect that a higher percentage of them hold close (some secretly, some not so secretly) dreams of book deals and publishing contracts, as opposed to your average person who’s just not into writing/blogging.
Your Day is Really Very Boring, and Not Important Enough For Me to Read
Good. Click the X.
In all seriousness, it’s in the way it’s told. Some people are just natural story tellers who CAN make doing the housework into an interesting story. Some of us? Eh, not so much.
But then, not everyone is writing for fame, fortune and book deals. Some are writing for themselves, or to keep in touch with family members. There are a million blogs out there on a million subjects. Some of those subjects don’t hold my interest. Rather than telling that genre that “You all bore me to tears.” I just don’t frequent them.
Your Kids Do Not Shit Glitter
I admit, this one made me smile. Because I think we’ve all known THAT parent. Their kids can do no wrong, ever.
Absolutely dead on, my kids don’t shit glitter. They aren’t perfect. And yes, I fully realize that posts where there is gushing about the wee ones, can be really dull for those who aren’t related to them. Please refer to the Boring rebuttal for suggestions on how to handle this.
Cliques
I’ve seen this accusation time and time again. “You all have a super duper special clique that I can’t get into. Wah.” It goes hand in hand with, “I wrote/tweeted my favorite blogger, who was 120,000 followers, and didn’t get a personal response back!”
There is only so much time in a day, and there are only so many people one person can keep in touch with.
Have I seen groups of women who interact more with each other than with others? Absolutely. Do I consider it a clique. Not usually. Most of the time, it’s just that these women have some common thread linking them. Be it a special needs child, a site they all write for, they live near each other…..there’s an extra commonalty there, that you just might not have. It’s not a personal slight, it’s just life.
Think of it as being at work. You don’t hang out with Every. Single. Coworker. after hours, right? You hang out with a select few that you have more in common with.
My Life is More Than Ass-Wiping and Nose-Blowing
Um, yeah. That would go for most people. Oh sure, some days it SEEMS like that’s all I do. But if it was? Who cares? As long as I’m happy with it, it’s not your place to tell me how lame I am. Again, find the X and move on.
Whew. It felt good to release that. You have no idea how many times I’ve bit my tongue over comments like these.
I suppose your perspective would depend on how you define a mommy-blogger. I guess in my world, a mommy blogger, is a mom who writes about her kids. Not necessarily 100% of the time, but often enough that I can follow their stories.
So, mothers, bloggers and those who aren’t, how do you feel about mommy-bloggers and blogging “cliques”? Do you consider yourself a mommy-blogger? Why or why not?
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Haha! I really liked this!! I harbor some of the same feelings. I am a mommy and a blogger but I wouldn't consider myself a 'mommy blogger'…at least in the stereotypical sense. Like you I must be at least a quasi mama blogger or maybe even a halfer. The mommy bloggers who are oh so perfect and the kids are oh so perfect and they think that everyone should do things their way and admire them like they themselves shit glitter. Those are the ones I stay far far away from.
I also don't feel as if there are really cliques. Just like you said people who have more in common with each other. I'm more inclinded to comment/coversate with my close by blogging friends. That's just the way it is.
Great post!
I am a mommy. I blog. Does that make me a mommy blogger? I don't know. I'm certainly not blogging to get a book deal. No one reads my blog, who would possibly read my book? And I'm glad my kids don't shit glitter – that glitter shit makes such a mess and gets everywhere!
drlori71´s last blog ..A Few Things That Make Me Laugh
Great post! Way to sum up how annoying that person was!
I could not care less if I'm called a mommy blogger. I have kids and I write a blog. A really silly battle to fight, in my opinion.
As far as a book deal? No, thanks. Not interested in one, not qualified for one, and most bloggers I interact with don't seem to be going in that way either. If they were? I don't get why that would be wrong if they're using their blog as a platform. Since when is trying to accomplish a goal a bad thing?
More annoying than anything that this person listed is the "I'm closing my blog" post. I've never actually seen one of these posts that lead to the end of a blog. They're usually done for attention, for the, "No, your blog is so great. Blah, blah, blah." If you don't like blogging, don't do it. If you don't want to be called a Mommy Blogger, write about something else. If it's interesting enough, all the 'cliquey' people will read it. If not, they'll read better blogs.
lz´s last blog ..97 Years Young
I am a mom, I blog as well. I also clean the house, audition for commercials, and it a lot of Dairy. So I guess that makes me a mommy,housecleaning, dairyeating,commercial auditioning blogger and that's okay with me.
Like others have already said, I'm a mommy and a blogger. I'm fine with this. I even have it on my bio page. My kids, however, are not perfect and I don't paint them as such. I'm also not angling for a book deal. I can't even imagine how boring that book would be.
C @ Kid Things´s last blog ..Pretty in Pink
It's funny to me that people even waste their time complaining about certain bloggers…no one is making them read!
This was a great post.
-FringeGirl
It's funny because recently I've been in a "I hate the Internet" mood precisely because I *don't* do some of those things. Some days it seems like it is the majority angling for bigger and better things and like I might be the loser for not doing so. Sometimes it seems like writing for yourself is so. not. cool.
Burgh Baby´s last blog ..Weapons of Mass Consumption Best Go Elsewhere
I still consider myself new to this whole world. I started because the strain and drain of being a mommy meant I had lost my voice. I look back at early posts that only my BFF read and I see how I've grown. Only, is it growing when you're returning to who you used to be? The term "Mommy Blogger" has taken a turn to be an insult, and according to the stereotype, it only really fits a small portion of bloggers. Are there moms who seem to only talk, IRL, about their kids? Yes, but how many do you actually know? And when you come across one, do you say "Shut the hell up and get a life!" No, you just end the conversation and avoid them in the future. I don't know why people can't seem to apply this concept on line.
("you" is in the figurative sense – I always feel a need to explain myself)
Cranky Sarah´s last blog ..Random Tuesday Thoughts
I'm seriously thinking it's time to take back and reinvent the term mommy-blogger the same way Feminists have tried to do. (not that it's worked all so well for that term either, but at least we're aware of the attempt)
I love this post!
I'm so over the whole anti-mommyblogger thing. I am a MOMMY BLOGGER oh for the love of God SO WHAT? I write about other things too, but yes my blog is primarily to record memories of my children so sue me.
You are right on with this post and also, I'm super glad my kids don't shit glitter cause that stuff is a bitch to clean up.
amy2boys´s last blog ..Weekly Winners – Pinewood Derby
i don't think i would be considered a mommy blogger. I am a mom. I blog. It is for me and my family basically. No book deals or extra fun stuff coming my way.
I can't remember what i did yesterday, how could i remember what we did last week. this blog is definitely a way for me to remember the things i will forget and maybe a little outreach as well. i love reading other blogs and their stories. great fun and a great way to waste my time away:)
great post
amber´s last blog ..Happy to You Part 1
@Stephanie, I'm sure cliques exist, but I think most of the time that accusation comes from a person who feels like they've been left out.
@lz, it's the new spin on working moms vs SAHmoms! lol
And yes, the hair flip, exit stage left drama usually lasts a matter of weeks, max, before whoever stormed out is back:)
@drlori71, pfft…if my kids start shitting glitter, I'm going to more concerned about what the heck they ate to produce that!!
@jessica, I know right? I have about 50 titles I wear every day. If you don't like "mommy" either leave me alone, or pick a different side of me to love, lol
@C @ Kid Things, I adore my kids, and *I* find them incredibely interesting, but I realize that those who aren't related to them, don't really care!
@Burgh Baby, I agree with that to a point. I think it cycles for me. Sometimes everywhere I turn is someone trying really hard to be the Next Big Blogger! I've written about it before, but I'm not sure I *want* to be the next big blogger:)
Hellz yes I'm a mommy blogger, and not only am I hankering after a book deal, but the title will be "I Shit Glitter!"
I think it's sad to see women get lathered up over being called a mommy blogger. It's like the anti-anti-feminist. If I reject the part of my identity that is a mother, then the Nazis win.
And the cliques? Obviously these people need to work on upping their narcissistic qualities, because if you're a blogger you should be too narcissistic to pay attention to other cliques. It's all about me!
Heather, Queen of Shake Shake´s last blog ..Quirky Kid Dossier: The Lonely Mother
I do not think of myself as a mommyblogger, not that I see anything wrong with mommy blogging. I write about so many different things and not just about my kids.
Interesting thoughts, now wondering who wrote that good bye cruel world post.
Kim @ Beautiful Wreck´s last blog ..Eight Years Ago I Was Saved or I Didn't Have A VBAC but Had A Great Birth Anyway
@the domestic fringe, The X, the X! I swear I’m going to change my tagline to “If I bore you, find the X!”
@Cranky Sarah, exactly, I just avoid hanging out with them. Which is the IRL version of the X, lol
And for what it's worth, my life often goes in a circle like that, I keep returning to where I used to be, but every time is a little different. It's hard to explain, I think.
@mari Richards, Viva la revolution!
@amy2boys, I know, right? Like dirty diapers weren't bad enough, now I've got to deal with GLITTER?
I don't really feel like I fit into either category. I mean, I'm not not-a-mommy-blogger because I do blog about my kids, but I don't really feel like a mommy-blogger, because I don't think I talk about them all the time.
But then, not fitting into a category is kind of normal around here. lol
@amber, It's a way of connecting with others. And I've gone back into my archives and been all, "Oh yeah, I remember that!" That's why I was so sad when they got wiped out last year.
@Heather, Queen of Shake Shake, I would ABSOLUTELY buy a book titled "I Shit Glitter" just fyi
And also? Bonus points for invoking the Nazis.
@Kim @ Beautiful Wreck, I'll neeever teeelll <–said like that creepy girl in the movie I can't remember the title of
Nah, I just figured if I linked to it, then it would seem like I was bitching at her, instead of about the general attitude.
love this
i am a totally cliche mommyblogger. and i am totally okay with that! like you said, if you're not interested in me or my kids then click the 'x' and move on with your life.
as for cliques? sure there are cliques… but they are EVERYWHERE in life. put on your big girl panties and deal with it.
and… P.S. i am not looking for a book deal.
MommyNamedApril´s last blog ..Cookies! Everything is Better with Cookies!
Fabulous post. Made me smile.
I don't get the annoyance at being called a mommy-blogger, either. Who cares? It's not like it's a job title or something. For, like, 99.9% of us this is just a hobby we do while the kids are napping, right? So quibbling over the job title seems silly.
And cliques . . . online . . . amongst people you don't know in real life? Someone complaining about that seems like a huge indicator that it's time for some real-life relationships.
I love your analogy about American Idol and secretly hoping for book deals. And yes, I secretly would love a book deal.
But more importantly here, how in the world did you get such cute comment boxes? Adorable. Best ever.
I am a mom and I blog, but I think the term mommyblogger is more in reference to the bloggers with littler kids (the preschool set and under) My girls are 12 and 15. I just blog about life, but some of my good friends are mommybloggers and I love them because of who they are not because what they blog about.
also, I can't stress enough you must comment on blogs-you may not get a response but some of my readers and then friends have come from me commenting on other blogs them clicking to my blog from my name and viola…friendship born.
If no one knows you exist, they can't find you to read you.
Great post!!
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Very good point. I've seen some awesome writers who got discouraged because they felt that no one was reading them, because they had no comments. But at the same time, these bloggers weren't commenting on anyone else either. It's like being in a room full of people with awesome stories to tell. If you listen to their story and just give them a blank stare afterward, they aren't likely to want to listen to your story.
heh, I can take no credit. They came with the theme, which came from infocreek.com
I'm not so handy with the customization. I keep saying I'll learn, but…time, ya know?
Awesome, *that* makes me smile, lol:)
Embrace the mommy-ness! lol Seriously, it's good that you're able to write what you want, and not worry over what those reading it might think. I'm still thinking about changing my tagline.
Do you ever read something on-line and part of it sticks with you and you don't even realize it? Yeah, I think that happened with me and this post HAHA! Yesterday was my first visit and I subscribed in Reader. Just a moment ago as I was scrolling through the cached posts, a phrase jumped out at me and a little "ping" sounded in the dark recesses of my brain. (Although, my post is not in any way related.) I just thought that was funny HA!
Cranky Sarah´s last blog ..Goodbye cruel world,
Love this post, although the whole book deal thing leaves me scratching my head. I've been blogging for nearly two years and not once has writing a book ever crossed my mind. I don't even consider myself a writer in that sense.
Cat @ 3 Kids and Us´s last blog ..Batter Up Kids Pink Princess Baking Set Giveaway
Great post!! Not sure I can be a mommy blogger being in Australia and all. No mommys here! But am a Mum, and a blogger, and tend to mention kids every now and then. And food. It's all about the food. I do sometimes feel like mum blogs are a bit of a club but that's cool with me. I write because I adore it. It's a bonus that people read it. Glad I found you.
Fiona Walmsley´s last blog ..gladness
This has me so intrigued! I started my blog primarily to write all about children and parenting.
I want someone to explain to me, what is bad about being a 'mommy' blogger? I've heard a few negative connotations in the blogosphere, but never really understood why it would be considered a bad thing.
I chose the motherly niche for my blogging, and hey, if a book deal were to come out of it, I'd be saying hell yeah!
There's even a chance that my baby COULD shit glitter, because she eats all sorts of other stuff she's not allowed. She's even eaten her own poo, YUCK!!!
Hear Mum Roar´s last blog ..One activity, three budgets
My kids shit glitter = priceless title for a book! Totally cracking up over that one!
I am a Mom Blogger, though I write very little about my children. But, hey, I'm a Mom, I'm a Blogger, and I cover highly mom-friendly topics… err, the name of my blog is Rural Mom.
Here's a funny, though, I wrote and published a book with McGraw Hill BEFORE I started Mom Blogging. Happen to like Mom Blogging just as much (maybe more but don't tell anyone in the publishing world that! har har)
Book writing is way over-rated btw. It is a fulfilling moment holding your book in your hands (especially if you are a mongo-book lover like me…) but it's a very poor paying profession for most (AKA most authors make a better living with speaking engagements, not necessarily books- just say'n…. HMMM… kind of like bloggers…)
But, back to the Glitter part- Way too funny! I, too, would have to run out and buy that book!
PS- I'm of the "everyone is entitled to their opinion" camp- diverse views certainly keep things interesting! And funny…
I actually just found your blog and I'm so glad I did! I know the post you're talking about and posted a similar response on my blog a few days ago. It really is a frustrating thing to see posts like that, full of generalizing, and name calling.
Personally I hate the labels, I'm a mom and yes I blog, but I also blog about other things. As I also have other parts of my personalities.
Stacey @ Say Something Stacey´s last blog ..All is quiet..but not calm!
Great post and good insight, I am sure I'm considred a Mommy Blogger. I really don't care, I like my blog and I like the content I choose to put up. That what I love about blogging you can be totally independent, no one editing and no one you have to pitch an artcile idea to. It's my words – typos and all, my thoughts, and yes my brilliant kid who might just have a glitter problem. But only because the cheap-o shoes she has from Target keeps shedding it. This person who has taken their ball and gone home is probably better off at home by themselves. I am pretty sure we all are. Who needs more negativity on the blogisphere. I sure don't.
Do I consider myself a mommy blogger. Sort of. I'm a mom & I blog so technically I'm a mommy blogger. However, my kids are 12 & 16 so there is a huge difference between most "mommy" bloggers and me. I have no babies in diapers. I don't review diaper bags and infant toys or the latest toddler clothing site. I also work outside of the home which I've found many mommy bloggers don't do. So I have a different frame of view than many. Mostly my blog is green, eco-friendly, gourmet type product reviews with random blogging about our life which is heavy on self sufficiency and rural living. Hope that answers the question
Ellen Christian´s last blog ..Can you Solve The Silver Key CD Mystery?
I hate the name mommy blogger, I admit it. But I also cringe at the name "mommy." It just sounds diminutive to me. That's my own issue, though! By the way, to the previous commenter, many of us taking our blogging businesses very seriously. It's not a hobby.
I am all about a book deal, but not necessarily through my blog. I agree with you – we're writers, why is it a big stretch that we might want to write books?
But what struck me was the whole idea of cliques. There are most definitely cliques, but they are rarely the people that everyone assumes are cliques. Those of us who have been blogging for awhile have blogging friends who we tend to gravitate towards. I have never had any problem approaching any of the more established and well-known bloggers. I have, on the other hand, seen people reserving seats and entire tables for "their" group and choosing not to associate with new people. Honestly, that seems to be more a sign of someone less established and less confident – if you're confident in yourself, you're more comfortable meeting new people.
Thanks for a great post. I believe that the best bloggers write for themselves first and their readers second. If you don't HAVE to write, by all means, abandon your blog and clear the playing field for those who do.
I didn't know this kind of thing was going on. I must be living under a rock! (smiles). Great post!
Mrs. White´s last blog ..Ten Children and Housekeeping
I'm a blogger. I write. That's the end of labels for me. Want to give me one? Okay…but, in my mind, I'm a blogger. I write. The label doesn't matter.
Bloggers all have different styles and different niches, even within the "mommy blogger" world. Compare it to high school, just for the sake of argument. Some bloggers remind me of cheerleaders, some remind me of nerds…okay, maybe it's a bad comparison because it's coming off negative even to me. But, the thing is, the blogsphere, just like the real world, is a big place. There's room for everyone. If you can't get into the supposed "clique," then give it up and do something different, but don't whine about it.
Excellent post!
Michele´s last blog ..Yet Another News Article About Mothers "Measuring Up"
Well said. There is always the option of that LITTLE X there, isn't there? Now though, what fun would that be for them? My kids? Don't shit glitter, but it DOES smell like roses…
sara@domesticallychallenged´s last blog ..What I meant to say Wednesday
@ThePsychobabble, honestly not trying to plug myself, but if I expect to be more than a "mommy-blogger" then I simply must plug, right? LOL! Seriously, this response made me think of post I wrote a week ago or so: http://3boysandadog.com/2010/02/so-what-do-you-do...
Great post! I really enjoyed it.
It is really a bit crazy if you think about it… I am a mom and a blogger (and a million other things, but that is for another comment). Personally, if I were to write a long, drawn-out, poor me I am leaving post… it would be only because I want people to say, "Please don't leave, we love you!" Puh-lease! Get a life is all I can say.
Kelli @ 3 Boys and a Dog´s last blog ..I am a Tropicana Juicy Insider Ambassador!
oh and I wish you could share so I could tell her "good bye"
Kelli @ 3 Boys and a Dog´s last blog ..I am a Tropicana Juicy Insider Ambassador!
I have to wonder what's going on with this whole 'Fare thee well' posting going on lately; I have come across 3 or 4 bloggers who have recently closed shop, or else are taking a 'break' from it all. Maybe there's some kind of 'spring cleaning' for the mind and soul happening?
In terms of why they are leaving the scene: some do indeed list the reasons you give, though another reason seems to be that the bloggers feel bullied, intimidated and harassed, and are exhausted as a result. They do not enjoy writing anymore, since what they write has become such a source of contention and controversy, they now self-edit and second-guess and generally write for someone other than themselves.
I have not experienced any bullying or pettiness, but then again, I am exactly nobody. I have a lovely and loyal group of people who check in on me every week, and I check in on them. Are we a clique? Hardly! We just support each other and give each other feedback and generally keep in touch.
Great post, Psychobabble. This was my first visit here, but I'll be back to read through your archives a bit…
This sounds all very "high school" to me and since I didn't get into drama back then, I definitely don't get into drama now. Besides, I don't really care what people think…I am a Mommy and in my book, I've already accomplished the greatest goal of my life. NOTHING could ever make me feel more fulfilled. I'm pretty sure that all my followers know that already and many of them feel the same way. Great posting.
The Redhead Riter´s last blog ..Mommies Can't Always Help
My problem is a little different. I am a mommy and a blog but I don't know if I count as a mommyblogger because I rarely mention my children directly. I WANT to be a mom blogger.
Callista´s last blog ..Review/Giveaway: coverPlug – for children's safety
I am in the mommy-blogging hating crowd. I consider my self a life and humor blogger. And does most of my funny from talking about my kids? Well, duh….that's why I had them, right? But closing down my blog cause other blog people are clique-y, perfect mommy, mommy bloggers? Nope. I have to much fun skewering them in my posts (and skewering myself along the way). So, I'm on your side that the whole 'taking my ball and going home approach' is stupid- but so is the 'if you are a female blogger then you have to be a mommy blogger' attitude on the web. i think I'll stick around and try to change that attitude. (For more read my "I'm sorry have we met" post.
Great post!
Amy Phillips´s last blog ..Daily Rant
@Cranky Sarah, I do that all the time, lol:) I heard a quote from someone famous (though I can't remember who…) that nothing new is ever written. That every story can be boiled down to a handful of elements that never really change. I can't decide if that's depressing or not, lol
@Cat @ 3 Kids and Us, I think the blogging world is full of people who blog just to blog, with no grand schemes to land book deals, or magazine contracts.
But I bet there are more book deal seekers in this arena, than in, say, professional hockey!
@Fiona Walmsley, I'm happy to meet you, too:) I think most of my on-line friends are the same. We're mom's, and we mention the kids, but it's not ALL we talk about.
@Hear Mum Roar, lol, I think the typical stereotype of a mommy blogger is a Stepford mom. And yeah, I'd totally take a book deal too. I'm just not holding my breath;)
@Barb, I would buy that book even if it were crap. lol
I think blogging offers a more instant feedback. I've never written a book though, so I may be talking out of my…
@Stacey @ Say Something Stacey, Exactly. I have an ungodly amount of roles I play. Mommy is just one (although probably the most frequent, lol)
@Katie, Agreed. Plenty of negativity/name calling and hating already out there.
@Ellen Christian, Different points of view are what keep teh internetz from being boring and dull:)
@Christy, Mommy isn't my preferred, I admit. From my kids, I don't mind, and actually enjoy it. But usually for other adults I will say mom or mother. I'm not really sure why? But I break the rules, even my own, on a regular basis lol;)
@Mrs. White, Thank you!:)
@sara@domesticallychallenged, You are a lucky woman then. Because I've never changed a flowery diaper. lol
@Lisa, I'm glad:) Thank you
@Kelli @ 3 Boys and a Dog, I'll admit, I've been tempted to write something similar , but I was pretty sure it was for less than honest reasons.
I think that everyone wants reassurance at some point, it's just too bad that some choose to get it this way.
@WarsawMommy, I think part of it is a seasonal thing. I've also noticed a lot of blogger disappearances after big conferences. Like the Blogher conference last year.
That? Is an awesome idea. ~begins plotting~
Exactly. I think the internet has shrank our global community, and so sometimes people feel like it's the next door neighbors who aren't hanging out with them. And it's not really like that at all.
I love that phrase, too. Even as I was all p.o'ed, that made me smile.
This is great! A mom blogger? Haven't really thought about it. I am a mom and a I blog, does that make me a mom blogger? I guess I am not sure. I don't write about my daily life with my kids, it is more the issues. Hmm, now you got me thinking.
@Michele, You put it very well:)
Awesome post! When I started blogging there was no such thing as a mommy-blogging clique, at least as far as I could tell or cared. It’s all so trivial. I say just write if that’s why you started your blog in the first place.
Mommy Cracked´s last blog ..Banquet Thanks a Million Promotion
@The Redhead Riter, I agree. “Mommy” is one of the few things I don’t regret doing.
I wish my children did shit glitter, then I could sell it and wouldn’t lust after a book deal!
It’s my blog, my rules, I write what I like. If people like it, good, if they don’t, that’s what the x is for. Simple as that!
Do ‘Daddy Bloggers’ suffer the same derision, or is it because we are women?
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@Callista, Well, I hope you can meld the two in a way that makes you happy:)
@Mommy Cracked, yes. I agree. For me anyway, the writing is more than the label
@SandyCalico, I think daddy bloggers have a unique set of stereotypes to deal with.
‘Your kids do not shit glitter’ has just made my week – I really needed a laugh!
Wise post.
Hairy Farmer Family´s last blog ..Paradigm Shift
Great post… Clique… isn’t that just a nasty name for a group of friends that you want to be part of? Drives me crazy too. We all make daily choices about who we want to be friends with in our daily lives too. By not choosing to be busom buddies with everyone you meet doesnt make you elitist – why should the blogging community be any different? Some people you like… some you don’t.
With a moaning spiteful post like the one you mentioned the blogger is clearly doing the right thing by removing themselves and their negativity.
BTW though – my daughter actually did shit glitter the other day. But then she had been eating it. xx
MummyTips´s last blog ..World Book Day… are you Playground mafia… UPDATE!
LOVED this POST~ Thank You for making my day! This will probably end up on a Tshirt somewhere—
“Your Kids Do Not Shit Glitter”
LOL
tanyetta´s last blog ..Eviction notices!
@ThePsychobabble, lol! I think I'm getting the idea now. I think us mums in Australia who blog are not as aware of all this. I actually googled mommyblogger last night, because I really thought it important to understand why the negativity.
A lot of things came up about the BlogHer conference, the 'swag', etc. I feel a little more enlightened. lol
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This made me laugh. Maybe some women are getting riled up because they believe the label "mommy blogger" strips all the unique aspects of their blog away and reduces it to a woman stereotypically talking about her kids. I try not to worry about or fight society's labels. I fit into too many categories and wouldn't get to do anything I actually like to do (like take pictures and write on my blog).
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What a great post – it made me laugh! Who is that bitter blogger? The one thing about "Mommy Bloggers" is that we are all so different. We are a vast group of women from all over, living very different lives. Let's support each other and have fun!
@ThePsychobabble, I'm sure there are many versions out there, including one in the Bible, but if it were a purely true statement, the world would have stopped writing centuries ago. I think the commonality shows the thread of connection through humanity.
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I guess I never thought of myself as a "mommy blogger" because I write about my life and sometimes go many posts w/o including the crap schedule of the prince and princess' of the home. AND perfect kids. Ya right! I LOVE to rat my kids out on screen! But I do get the most comments on the posts about my kids. Odd, because I do not find my kids that interesting. I mean, I wouldn't read faithfully about them:)
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Ha. Just noticed my last post is about my son and how he poops glitter! MY WORD! I AM a mommy blogger!!! Nooooooo…..:)
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@Dalia (Generation X Mom), eh, I don't know. I'm certainly not an expert on it. I know that some would consider me a mommy blogger, and some would just consider me a blogger.
@Katrina, exactly. If fear of being a mommy blogger were the only thing that stopped me from writing, the loss would be mine.
Now the part about it going from a hobby to drudgery, that I don't have an issue with. If you can't enjoy it, at least a good chunk of the time, then it's not worth it, in my humble opinion
@Magically Ordinary, I think women in general have had a hard time supporting each other. We tend to be very defensive. I'm thinking of the traditional mommy wars, lol
@Mariah, I think the less-than-perfect kids provide the best stories, myself. lol
@Mariah, I love it:)
@Amy Phillips, Oh, no, I didn't mean that being mom automatically made you a mommy blogger. Just that going home because you've met a label you don't like is kind of silly.
And that the stereotypical assumptions about "mommy bloggers" are, in my experience, false more often than they are right.
I've referenced you in my article tomorrow because this post made me laugh so much. I baked a cake which does actually make kids shit glitter, so drop by and see how it's done. I am neither 'poo' or 'pain' blog – just a London single Mum living in a non-Mike Leigh Happy-go-lucky blog world, thanks for the post, goes live tomorrow am x
@nixdminx, I love it:) I'll definitely come check that out!
Uh huh. Yup. Yes. What you said. I should have found this post earlier and then just put up a link instead of my ramblings.
And appreciated your comment too, and agree…we don't want to all be looked at in exactly the same light, but at the same time, what's wrong with that light? So confusing.
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@Heather of the EO, lol, that's funny, because I thought your post was more eloquent, and I loved the mommyblogger-Mary Kay analogy!